Always go with the choice that scares you the most, because that’s the one that is going to help you grow.
— Caroline Myss
Admittedly, I have never been shy. As a child, while my parents were playing softball, I would wander around the baseball park and invite myself to birthday parties. Which, during the summer, were very frequent. When the softball game was over my parents would have to go looking for me. More often than not, I would be discovered eating some random child’s birthday cake. My parents always apologized profusely, but no one ever seemed to mind having an extra child around.
Although me inviting myself to random birthday parties as a child is a strange example, it taught me to go for the things I wanted. The worst thing that could happen is that I would not get any birthday cake.
Moving ourselves out of our comfort zone is scary! However, it is also really rewarding. After all, if things don’t pan out the first time you have at least learned what didn’t work out. You are able to try again, but this time with more knowledge and often a better understanding of how to succeed. Failure is an opportunity to learn more.
how you can help yourself out of your comfort zone
- Go to a company dinner to make new connections with others.
- Offer to take the lead on a new project.
- Pitch a new idea to your team or management.
- Compliment or prompt a conversation with a coworker.
- Face a fear head on — do a public presentation or give a speech.
- Find out how you can improve by simply asking your coworkers or manager.
- Ask questions if something is not clear.
- Be willing to ask for help if and when you need it.
- Take that vacation that you have been dreaming of.
- Wear a new (work appropriate, of course) outfit that isn’t your usual style.
- Try a new place to eat on your lunch break.
- Discuss why you feel you have earned a promotion or a raise.
Doing something that scares you or makes you feel uncomfortable makes you feel more alive. You are able to prove to yourself that you can do it. Not to mention, it sets an amazing example for others.
When something scares you, it is often the very thing worth doing.